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life after tragedy. living while grieving. love and triplets.

4.08.2013

A, B, and C

Meet Baby A, Baby B, and Baby C

First of all thank you so so so much for all the love and support.  I broke down in tears more than once reading all your comments.  Thank you and hugs to all the fellow triplet moms who came over and shared their story.  I can't tell you how much better I feel!  I feel fine, I feel like they are going to be fine.  I'm not as terrified about the outcome, I'm just getting more and more excited to meet them.  I'm terrified about the 1st year and making it through but I will deal with that when we get closer.   I belong to a Utah triplet facebook group and am waiting to become accepted into a few others.  I'm so glad these groups exist!  

A few people asked about Ryan.  We got him started on hormone therapy immediately.  He's doing so much better.  His confidence is back.  I think it will probably take close to a year for him to be back to 100% but slowly he's making progress.  Before the accident his thyroid was hyper (high), and now it's very hypo (low).  It's so crazy what almost dying does to you hormone wise...I had no idea.

I'm super bummed that we have to sell our Subaru Outback.  It drives like a dream in the snow and is very roomy.  We've been looking into new cars.  We aren't van people.  I know people love their vans and we may just end up becoming van people but for now it's our last resort.  I really prefer all wheel drive and something really super safe.  We've tried out a few SUVs but I can't imagine myself driving something so huge.  Yesterday we sat inside a Tahoe and a Suburban and I felt like I was sitting behind the wheel of a bus.  I've sat inside a van and tried to imagine 3 infant carseats ...3!  I've come to the conclusion that there are no perfect options on what car to get.  My back hurts so bad right now that the thought of placing and removing an infant car seat from a third row seat makes me cringe in pain.  I mean how do you even do that?  Any ideas?

I know I've shared on here that I have horrible pregnancies.  With Finn I just never had any energy, my carpel tunnel showed it's ugly little head, and I swelled up to the size of an elephant.  But when I was pregnant with Colum it was horrible.  I waited and expected the nausea to go away but it never did.  I was so so so sick the entire time!  I puked on the delivery table and couldn't go down the meat isle at the grocery store.  I remember during the 2nd trimester going to Target in my PJs.  I remember seeing other pregnant Moms dressed, hair done, full make up and just wondering how in the hell they mustered up enough energy to do that.  It took everything I had to just go pee 50x's/day and getting dressed was out of the question.  Of course it ended up that my thyroid was low.  I remember my OB said to me that she'd never seen one so low and she wasn't even going to touch it, it freaked her out so bad.  I quickly got into an endocrinologist and they doubled my dose.  I'll never ever forget the long hallway that led to her (endocrinologist's) office.  Finn was with me, and he was such a late walker (20 mos) so he was still crawling.  I swear I have never seen a hallway so long and I was basically sleep walking cause I was so exhausted.  I didn't have a stroller and so Finn crawled that entire hallway because I swear it was impossible for me to carry him.  He pushed a Lightning McQueen car down the entire thing and the looks I got were priceless.  We were about 30 min late to that appointment.  My carpel tunnel got so bad that it was equally as bad as the constant nausea.  I wore braces on both wrists the entire time and the top of my palms swelled up 4 inches high until they were hanging over the side of those braces.  My ankle circ. was bigger than my thighs.  Even my nose retained water.  After Colum was born I gave everything away and I swore I'd never do that again.

Ha!  Well here I am pregnant with triplets.  I'm still really tired but the nausea is almost gone.  I have more energy than I've had the last 2 pregnancies.  And so far...no carpel tunnel!  I dare say so far this is the easiest pregnancy to date.  I'm so grateful, I think I deserve it!  I'm famished all the time.  I crave protein but the only protein that sounds good is steak.  On Saturday I ordered a dish that contained chicken and I began gagging at the restaurant and had the waiter take it away.  Only moments later the table next to us ordered the exact same dish and so I had to remove myself from the facility.   The book on expecting multiples that I'm reading says you have to gain a significant amount of weight.  I can honestly say that won't be a problem here!  I get huge no matter what I eat, but the good news is I just pee most of it out the first couple months.

I can feel them moving almost every single day.  It's early but I think when there are 3 in there that everything comes early.  The one on the left, the lonestar, the singleton is the one I feel the most.  The lonestar also looks like he/she has the same profile and same nice big round head as Colum!  This has been a very welcome distraction to all the gloom that's been hanging around here.  I expect that this blog will go from sad to crazy by the end of this year.

Our new house!  I hope it's big enough.  I can't wait to slap a modern front door on there and some globe lights!

Happy Easter Colum!  His headstone always has lots and lots of flair.

Finn is my bff.  "Mom, mom, these girls, these ones are my favorite".  He had me laughing so hard when I turned around to see his pose.

And this one... I'm so in love with him!


55 comments:

  1. I sit in shock reading your blog...triplets? Holy cow! Your desire to have more children certainly came true. Congratulations and I'm sure that your angel baby had something to do with this. I only have one child and he is 12. I love him to pieces, but can't even imagine having more than one. Some people are meant to have more, some less. I'm happy for you that after all the struggles and tears you are blogging about some very happy news. I wish you all the best and I'm pretty sure you're going to have to become used to driving extra large vehicles to transport your new and growing family! Good luck and I hope the remainder of the pregnancy is smooth sailing. I look forward to reading more about your adventure of three!

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  2. I've been following your blog for quite sometime, so I'm so happy for you with your good news!! Triplets is amazing! I hope it goes well for you and your family. You've probably heard it a thousand times, but if your back is constantly hurting you can try going to the chiropractor once every week or two and combine that with yoga. It seems to help some of us with back pain during pregnancy:) I love reading your blog, so I hope you continue to keep writing!

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    1. No. I've never heard that. Thank you!

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  3. You definitely deserve a good pregnancy! I just love Finn..he's such a stud. That pose is awesome. If you need anything let me know. And we can help you move too. If you need help boxing stuff up...I am willing.

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  4. Also, I wanted to say that I am not a van person either, but on the blog therhouse.com she got to test drive a Honda Odyssey. And it sounded awesome...almost turned me into a van person. Seriously I never want to own a van, but I do love van sliding doors and that it is so much easier to get to the 3 row of seats.

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  5. I am thinking you need a nice Hummer. And Finn!! I think he has been influenced by Taylar and her exotic poses. This guy has a flair, not to mention taste! Your house is really beautiful. I'm just excited for you on so many levels.

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  6. Oh man those pics of Finn made me howl!!! What a character.

    So glad to hear your pregnancy going so well. I had twins and it too was a great pregnancy (although you have an extra 'lonestar' in there ;) All the best to you and yours!

    I vowed never to be a 'van mom' too but those three rows of seats and sliding doors were a blessing in disguise. And when they did not need help getting buckled and all that I bought my dream vehicle. A Jeep!

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  7. Finn cutest model ever! So cute:)

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  8. Congrats on the triplets!! We are expecting GBB (identical) triplets in a couple weeks via gestational carrier. We can't wait to meet them. So excited for you!!

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  9. Both my sister-in-laws have large families, ok larger than my 2. One has 4 and the other 5 and all are in carseats. One drives a suburban and the other a minivan. Just from watching them put the children in the different cars the van looks so much easier. Honestly I have watched my sister-in-law with the suburban crawl in through the back of the vehicle, hoist the kids over the seat and strap them in while hovering over the seat. It just looks so difficult. My other sister-in-law pushes a button, the doors slide open, the older kids can climb in and wait for mom to buckle them in and she can walk right down the center aisle to strap everyone in. Plus it appears that there is a lot of storage room in the back.
    I am not a van owner, probably will never own a van but from what I observe this looks to be the easier route, especially with three in infant seats. And those three seat strollers are not small you will need a place for that and all the other gear you will have to lug around. Plus Finn and Ryan.
    Just telling you what I observe.
    P.S. Finn looks so darn adorable in those pictures. My son also likes to put his hands on his hips and "pose." It is actually his preferred method of dancing as well, hands on hips and wiggles his butt.

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  10. Hi Kelly, I'm another triplet mom sent your way from Michele S :) First, let me say how incredibly sorry I am for the loss of your baby boy. My heart breaks reading your posts. I will be praying that you have as comfortable a pregnancy as you can carrying 3! My GGG are now 7 1/2 and I have a 18 month singleton. I look forward to following your blog. Oh and regarding cars, we have a Tahoe and had the girls 3 across in the 2nd row but didn't have to worry about getting anyone in the 3rd row. But with your older son still in a carseat you may be best going with a minivan :)

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  11. You sound so good. And I know it's not easy. I am just so excited for you. My 'baby' is 40 years old but I don't know many women who don't always feel that being pregnant is a gift and there is absolutely nothing in this world sweeter than a newborn baby. I'm look forward to supporting you through it all. Your Finn is so cute and I can understand why you love him so much.

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  12. wow, wow, wow!!! I am so incredibly happy for you!! :) God is amazing!!

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  13. How wonderful to see all three of your little miracles, they are adorable. And, Finn, he is so so so cute! I love that age, my granddaughter that I spend alot of time since she has resided with me for the last four years, is the same age as Finn and is also my bff and my world. She makes me laugh at least a dozen times a day. The pictures of Finn are priceless. Hope everything goes well with the move. DO NOT MOVE ANYTHING BY YOURSELF!!! Take care of all four of you, Love always, Tree

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  14. Love the pictures of Finn with the mannequins. Congrats on the triplets.

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  15. I will follow your blog as long as you keep writing, and hope that you do. Well, as much as you can when the babies come. No VAN! (also not a fan). But, whatever works is most important ;) -- I also follow your Instagram, you are a hoot! I'm loving that your sense of humor is surfacing after all you've been through. You deserve peace and much happiness.

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  16. Love the cute little Baby pics! 3 Babies AHHH I am SO EXCITED for you! Glad that this pregnancy so far is going better than your first and second, yes you do deserve that!! :) Love your new home, can't wait for you to make wonderful memories in it:) CONGRATS!

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  17. As a mom of 4 (youngest two are twins) I have driven an older van and I have considered a SUV, but decided with 4 kids in carseats it was not worth it. I have loved my van, and I am currently saving for a newer one. We have decided on a Honda Odyssey 8 passenger, we can leave most of the back row down and one child in the back with the three younger ones on the front bench. I loved how the Odyssey drove like a SUV as it is built on the frame of a Honda Pilot. It is also closer to the ground then an SUV. I have a hard time climbing into an SUV. But good luck with what ever you decide. The front of the house looks good. Good luck with your move!

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  18. From day one I have cried at every single post you have written. Today is no exception. Tears of joy are a welcome relief. The babies are beautiful and you have been blessed. The doctors may have given you two babies but I think the angels gave you an extra. My daughter and I call them dreamy, twinkle and sparkle. There will always be a tomorrow but with faith , happiness will follow. Rainbows and sunshine often come after a storm. Hugs and wishes. Lisa

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  19. Uh oh. Looks like you're on your way to a mini. It's okay Kel. It will make for a great road trip mobile!

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  20. Kelly, I love the Character of your new home!! Can't wait to see it's inside charm!!! Go with the Honda, you won't regret it!! There is a facbook page called Our Quad Life, it's a couple in Denver with 6month old quads!!! They just went on a road trip to California with them!!! Anything is possible! Enjoy your pregnancy and I can't imagine a delivery room with three crying infants!! What a joy, god bless:):) Love from Colorado

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  21. Does Finn know you are pregnant? If so what was his reaction? He sure is a cutie!

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    1. Yes! He is over the moon excited! I will write about it on my next post.

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  22. Just wanted to send more triplet mama encouragement your way (I found your blog through Michele S. also) - you can do this and it is SO much more than worth it! Our trio just turned 9 and they (along with their amazing big sister) are the best things that my hubby and I have done. I've always felt very privileged to be a mom. It didn't come easily for us either as years of infertility are our history too.

    I am so very sorry to hear about the loss of your gorgeous baby Colum.

    The very best to you and your family during this exciting time.

    Julie

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  23. Woot Woot! I'm glad that your nausea is almost gone...and your right, you do deserve it!!! LOVE your new house!!! I don't know if your know my love for MCM too, so I'm completely jealous...in a good way:) I'm DYING to see the inside and can't wait to see all of the changes you make to make it your own. I'm so excited for all of the upcoming events you have approaching in your life. Your just the sweetest!

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  24. Just wanted to share my 2 cents on a van. I never pictured myself driving a van, but it happened and I love it now. My biggest pro (because I also love suburbans - so much room!) is the sliding doors. No worries about kiddos slamming into cars next to you. Plus it gives you more room to get them out. Whatever you decide, I'm so excited for your new additions! You and your family deserve EVERY happiness and are always in my prayers.

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  25. Health and happiness coming your way! I'm so excited for you. Your little guy Finn is a doll! So happy for you and Ryan. Can't wait to keep reading your updates!

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  26. I had the worst carpal tunnel w/my pregnancies!! Its one of those unspoken symptoms that not too many people have. Just want you to know someone else gets the misery of carpal tunnel. Good luck and congrats!

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  27. How nice to see the pictures of your little ones! I know you said most protein disgusts you, but that is the one food you need to concentrate on. Your body does not store it and you need a ton of protein to grow triplets. Most of us turn to protein drinks like Boost or Ensure high protein or adding protein powder to your own creation to get more. Cheese, nuts and peanut butter are also good sources or non-meat protein. As for the back pain, I can't say that is going to get any better. Check with your doctor before doing anything like a chiropracter. Some allow but most don't. I was allowed regular pregnancy massages and they were awesome. No yoga. Anything even resembling exercize is a no-no, LOL. I'm so happy you are able to be excited now!

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  28. A friend with 8 month old twin girls, a 2 year old wee one still rear facing, and an older son drives a Mazda CX9 and gets all three rear facing seats in the second row. Her oldest just climbs into his seat through the back hatch. Might be doable for you...

    Congratulations on the pregnancy and many, many blessings to you on this journey. Prayers for peace and well-being.

    Amy (a reader from Michele S's blog)

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  29. Oh my gosh! I'm so excited for you! Congratulations! We're cramming all 3 of our kids into our prius, because we didn't want to go to a van yet. We figured out that the chicco keyfit carseats is the most narrow and lightest infant seat, so that's what we're putting the new baby in when he get's here. It also has really really good safety ratings and reviews. Your pictures of Finn and the mannequins cracked me up! Those poses! The other day, I turned around in the store to find my own Finn (who is also 3 btw) rubbing his hand up and down a mannequin's leg saying, "Ooo! Mom what is this?!" So at least yours wasn't doing that :)

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  30. I have twins (now almost 5) and 2 older kiddos...and we were able to fit them all in carseats (even 3 convertible ones) into our Honda Pilot...I LOVE it! We have a minivan, but I am not a van person, so I make my hubby drive it! The Honda isn't nearly as big and bulky as the Tahoe or suburban...although if you ever want to go anywhere, you might want to have at least 1 vehicle that can hold 3 pack n plays, and a triple stroller...they don't come very small! And Chicco Keyfit seats are wonderful, and #1 on the market for preemies/small babies...they are the only one safety tested for under 5lbs!!

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  31. I love it! Such cute little babies you have. Finn is so funny, what a sweet boy. I'm so glad this pregnancy is going better for you!! I hope it continues that way for you and you get these babies all the way to that 34 week mark! You give me hope that my next one wont automatically be harder than my last :) I love the new house. I'm sure you will make it fantastic inside and out and it will be such a happy home with all those little guys running around! Love ya!

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  32. So glad your pregnancy is going well so far! Also, those pictures of Finn are so adorable and cute!

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  33. You are an amazing person! I love reading your blog and am also so glad to here your words of joy... YOU so deserve it! Can't wait to follow your journey with these new babies. Such a blessing!
    BTW: For sure go with a van, they are the best in every way with kids.

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  34. First of all, congrats on the new bundles of joy. I can across your blog a few months ago after Kelly's Corner posted about your family. I can never tell you that I know what you are going through but your story has given a new outlook about life. I have noticed you are huge Subaru people as am I due to the awesome safety points. I'm from Alabama so I don't really need the AWD but it's nice when we do get a crazy snow because everyone here freaks out when they see it. I know you love your Outback. I personally love the Tribeca, which I think would be large enough for your growing family and still have all of the safety elements. I didn't understand Subaru until I met my West Virginia fiance. He will not drive anything else and is currently on #3. I now will not drive anything else. Ok. Sorry for my Subaru rant. :) I hope you have a great day! I will be praying hard for those precious babies. I hope that everything with your pregnancy goes wonderful and they all arrive very happy and very healthy.

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  35. I was also going to mention the Tribeca. I looked at them a while ago and some models have 3rd row seating. I'm so happy for your family new house, new babies, new adventure. Sending love and positive thoughts always.

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  36. I really can't wait for Finn and Harper to hang. Is he starting kindergarten this fall, too? I laughed so hard at your story of going to the endo's office. I had to read it to Jeff. I could so see that having been me. I LOVED being pregnant, but at the same time was always a complete mess. I was NEVER one of those cute preggos either! As for the vehicle - I would try to see if you can find something where the babies go in the MIDDLE ROW so it's easier to get them in and out. After all, I'm sure Finn will be more than happy to oblige when he needs to climb all over the car to get into his car seat.

    Thinking of you EVERY DAY! xoxo

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  37. HOLY FREAKING COW! Haven't been to your blog in a few weeks and could hardly believe your new posts! CRAZY! A friend of ours had triplets (no fertility treatments) a few years back and all went well...it was child 7, 8, & 9. However, they had a child pass away years previously also. It can go well. Congratulations. I would have made the same choice, not matter what happens, you will know you gave them the very best chance at a healthy, happy life. Seriously, how crazy scary exciting is this?!

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  38. Kelly, I have been following your blog since the beginning, and have cried and prayed for you. I was thrilled to hear your news. Blessings!!! I wanted to chime in with the cars. I echo the Honda Pilot as a good option -- its very carseat friendly to install in the second row. I had that car when my kids were tiny. I now am on my second Volvo XC90. It will meet your needs for safety (safety features you didnt even know existed). The third row has 2 indep. seats so can just put one seat up and use the rest of the space for stroller etc. Finn can load thru the back hatch or if you keep the passenger side seat forward -- he can squeeze in to the back (my skinny 11 year old neighbor does this). The middle seat has a built in booster if you wanted to have Finn sit between 2 babies at some point. Also that middle seat moves allthe way up so if 1 of your 3 is a bit more "outspoken" they can sit where your free hand can reach. Obviously I love my car -- but I want you to feel just as safe as you do in your outback! All the best to you -- you and hubby DESERVE it. Jen from NY

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    1. The Volvo is the car that we want! I'm still going to look at others but my heart is with the Volvo XC90. I'm so glad you posted this! And I'm so glad you're on your second! Thank you!

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  39. Oh my goodness! How exciting! Just to chime in we are a Subaru family too... Safety and carseat obsessed here. I LOVE the Diono car seats and they are top rated for safety, steel enforced frames, etc. They are one of the few seats that easily fit three accross. Check them out! We have a Forester and two kiddos but I have friends with the Tribeca and 3+ kids who love it. Blessings your way. -susannah

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  40. YAY!!! I haven't been keeping up with your blog since around January. I looked you up today, and saw those ultrasound pictures and the biggest smile and joy came over me. It's like I'm related to you, or something. I am so happy for you and your family.

    Congratulations!!

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  41. OMG...Finn cracks me up!! LMAO!!! LOVE THE NEW HOUSE!!!

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  42. Awesome, three little babies :) Love that house! Finn is so darn cute! All this is so exciting. If you end up with a van, you don't have to be a perma-van person. But considering how full your hands will be for a few years, vans are EASY! and kinda nerdy, but you can drive a nerd mobile for a few years. Also, my friend with twins told me that she doesn't even remember their first two years, so maybe if you end up in a van you'll have selective memory loss and not even remember you ever drove a van...ha ha

    Been ready for a while, so very happy for you! You've earned this happiness!

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  43. You maybe would like a GMC Acadia or Saturn Outlook with the split Captain Seat middle row and full bench third row!

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  44. Congratulations! Whatever car you decide will work out just fine, as you decide I'll give you my 2cents on the matter. I live in a ski resort town, and have to have all wheel or 4 wheel drive... I have 4 boys. I have had the Toyota sienna and am currently a Suburban driver. Toyota Sienna is availiable with all wheel drive, this means you have"run flat tires" and no spare. Not ideal. I went through tires fast and they were not cheap, once I did have a flat and I can tell you, my tire did not "run flat". However... Sienna was super safe, super easy, very nice. There are latch's and tethers for all of the seats in the back and that is SOOO important as you well know. Ok. About the suburban, more room, I have gotten used to the hugeness while driving. To me the biggest drawback is that the latch and tether options are few and crappy. NONE whatsoever in the very back. GMC's version of the suburban is all wheel drive where the chevy is 4x4 that seems to be the main diff. For you I would say one of the most important aspects of any car you get is your ability to safely buckle all your babies they way they should be. Not call suv's are equal in this aspect. Check out toyota, the Sequoia's are nice.... Good luck! How amazing and crazy this life is. Who would have thought ?? triplets ?? AMAZING!

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  45. I just told you on Instagram to do a van but just now read your post here that you don't want a van, whoops! I want to say that I am no ultrasound expert, I run off of intuition like any mom would, but those are some good-looking babies you have. I get the feeling that they are doing very very well. I am in awe of your perseverance and resilience and so glad that you aren't too downright miserable with the pregnancy! Nausea is horrific. Your house looks so cool, and really has style. Congratulations to you and your family!

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  46. Hello! I too have triplets! These two organizations were a great help to me: www.tripletconnection.org and www.mostonline.org They have Facebook pages also. I have 10 kids now :) I had two, like you, then I had triplets. My oldest was 3 1/2 and then next was 18 months when the triplets were born. 4 in diapers, breast fed the triplets. We got a van when the triplets were born but the best car for us was a suburban! The 3 baby car seats in the back and then 2 boosters in the row in front with the other seat kept folded down. We later went to a 15 passenger van! We have a suburban now and it has been in two accidents with teenage drivers which I feel saved them from what could have been worse accidents. Triplets are great fun! The hardest age for me was age 2 and not the first year! I have a blog Farmersdozen.com Good luck. Your story is touching. You are a strong amazing person. Congratulations to your family and get in touch with these triplet groups as they can help you with any questions you might have! Take lots of picture and enjoy every second! You already have proven you can do hard things! Laurie Farmer

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  47. As a mom of triplets plus two older kids (they were 4 and 6 when my trips were born) and an owner of both a Honda Pilot and a Toyota Sienna, I can tell you without a doubt that it is WAY easier to load the kids in and out of the Sienna than the Pilot. Also, there is no room in the Pilit for a stroller or anything else when there are three infant seats plus two in boosters. The Sienna's trunk is huge- we have put all kinds of strollers and wagons back there and still loaded the kids with ease. The sliding doors on a van are also do important, as it makes it easier to access the kids in tight spaces (imagine someone parking so close you can't open the door of your SUV or car wide enough to get the cars eats out!). I never wanted a van, either, but all it took was trying to load three infant seats into our Pilot once and we bought a van the next day. :-)

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  48. Congrats!!! I have been following since your accident. I was quite shocked when I seen the ultrasound pictures. How exciting!!! So HAPPY for yous!!1

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  49. Greetings from Tokyo! We officially make 3 weeks today on our adventure of a lifetime... we lived in Houston, Texas and I have been following your blog since the beginning. Our computer is on the ocean freight heading over and I just couldn't take it anymore and had to check in on the blog from my phone. As soon as the page loaded and I saw the ultrasound pic, I just broke into tears. I wish you knew me so you could feel/see my excitement for yall!!! Honestly, I can't imagine more beautiful news. Just as I've lifted your family up in prayers through the recovery, I will pray your sweet.three here too! OH! I can't wait for my husband to come home from work so I can show him myself. :) HUGS and LOVE from our little japanese nest to your darling midcentury nest! xo

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  50. Wow, I haven't read in a while, and what news! Congratulations, so exciting. I had (almost) the same thing happen in my IVF pregnancy, although I only ended up with twins. It had taken 3 IVF's to have my son. When he was 1.5, I did another IVF, and it failed. The next one was going to be the last try, so we did preimplantation genetic diagnosis, and we had 5 embryos with normal chromosomes. AS we were going in for the embryo transfer, the doctor said they would normally only transfer two embryos when they'd been tested, but given my history, they were going to transfer 3 because "I was okay with having twins, right?" They never even gave me a chance to think about it. Anyway, at my first ultrasound, they saw two sacs, at the next ultrasound, we saw only one heartbeat, but it was still very early. The next ultrasound, to my shock, there were three perfect heartbeats, three embryos just the right size. There was a pair of identical twins, and a singleton. They had all three been there before, but the identical twins were in a weird place, so they had trouble seeing them. I burst into tears on the table, just like you did. I knew what a high-risk pregnancy this was, and in my case, doing the PGD had probably caused an embryo to split, so I felt sort of responsible. They were in separate sacks, but shared a placenta. My doctor recommended reducing to one, especially because I have a heart-shaped uterus (my mother took DES). We talked about it, didn't know what to do, went to see a specialist, but by 9 weeks, there were only 2 heartbeats. We had lost one of the identical twins. I was relieved, because I never had to decide what to do, and given my uterus, and my age, I don't know if I could have carried 3, but I do wonder what it would have been like to have had all three. They are 9 now. They were all girls. I know which of my girls had the identical twin, and boy, imagining two of her is crazy! So exciting for you. I hope you continue to have a wonderful pregnancy. And get lots of protein! I drank protein shakes, because I couldn't eat enough steak!

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  51. Oh, and by the way, we love our Honda Odyssey. As much as you might like an SUV, you are going to have a lot of gear, and mini-vans usually have much more storage in the back behind the third row. We live in NYC for the first year of our 3 car-seat life, and we didn't own a car (can you imagine) and we rented when we needed to drive, so drove everything. And unless you get a monster like a Suburban, the typical SUV would not fit our strollers etc. in the back. Plus it is so much easier to get to the back with the sliding doors that automatically open on a mini-van. When you shop, you really have to measure the cargo space with all three rows of seats in use, and imagine fitting a triple stroller and all the other crap that comes with four kids in the back.

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