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life after tragedy. living while grieving. love and triplets.

4.02.2013

6 pink lines

Yes, I'm pregnant.  In December we went to another fertility clinic and before leaving discovered our insurance would cover IVF 50%.  We were going to leave for Florida and since I ovulated in November we figured we would try naturally for a few months.  I can't remember why but we went back again in December and she did an ultrasound and I wasn't ovulating that month.  I was her last appointment "Let me hurry and go check something" she said.  Upon return she said, "If you start birth control tonight, we can get you in with the January cycle".  "Okay", I blurted.  Ryan was on his way there straight from work, he wasn't even there yet, we hadn't discussed it but I just knew.  

You see, Ryan's testosterone has been crazy low since the accident.  We couldn't fix that until I got pregnant, testosterone therapy will basically kill a man's sperm.  And trust me when a man's testosterone is low it just isn't good.  


I was growing tired of waiting for my body to work in order to fix his.

He wasn't himself.  He didn't feel right.  His confidence was gone.  My rock, my best friend, my favorite wasn't okay.  I grew very tired of watching him suffer.

Of course he was okay that I'd said yes.  It was oddly refreshing because it just felt right.  Everything fell into place.  You do injections in your stomach now instead of huge needles in your behind.  The egg retrieval was almost painless.  I guess I hyper-stimulated last time because I was miserable but this time was a piece of cake.  30 eggs were retrieved and 21 fertilized.  We did a day 5 embryo transfer and by day 5 there were 13 top quality embryos left.  They drop like flies after they fertilize and by day 5; 13 was a very high number.  They actually had a difficult time choosing the best ones to put in.  11 were frozen and 2 were put in.  I asked the Dr if it was normal to have such good results and she said no, this was above and beyond average.  It was just so easy this time.  I was confident it was going to work.  I could just feel it.  I didn't even have an ounce of doubt.... and I was right. 

They were put in on a Friday and I was sick by Monday.  I was showing a week later.  I wasn't anxious the day of the blood test 10 days post transfer because I was sick as a dog and showing.  

I was very anxious and impatient for the first 7 week ultrasound to see if there were one or two babies.  I had a very strong feeling there were more than two.  I looked 4 months pregnant, maybe even 5.  I doubted my instincts, there was only like 1/1000 chance that any of them split.  The ultrasound tech confirmed there were twins and Ryan who had to work was on speaker.  I was relieved and ecstatic my worst fears were laid to rest.  She listened to the first baby's heartbeat and it was fine.  While moving over to the second sac her eyes squinted as she pulled the screen out of my view and more directly into hers.  I didn't mind as I shut my eyes so I could revel in this celebratory moment.  We are going to be okay, life is good.  "Kelly, there are 2 yolk sacs in this one....... Kelly..... there are 2 babies in there.  It's hard to see but...."  she slowly pushed the monitor into my view.  I squinted my eyes and looked closer.  I could barely see it but sure enough you could see 2 heartbeats beating what looked like nearly on top of each other.  "We are pregnant with triplets!!!", Ryan's voice excitedly shouted over the speaker.  Tears were falling from my eyes "Ryan!  Don't be excited, this is so dangerous, this is not good".  The ultrasound tech said she was going to go and get one of the Doctors to take a look and see if he could tell if they were in separate amniotic sacs (same gestational).  

By the time he came into the room I was sobbing.  I knew what this meant.  I knew some of the risks involved, the dangers that lie ahead.  The options we had to think about.  The Doctor couldn't see anything it was too early.  He took 45 min unexpectedly out of his busy schedule to explain ever so kindly how this just wasn't good.  The fatality risks are very high. If they weren't in separate amniotic sacs there would be a 60% chance one would die causing all of our lives to be at risk.  I kept picturing 1 lb newborn babies in the NICU... 3 of them.  I imagined buying another plot in the cemetery accompanied by designing another headstone.  I imagined worrying and being sad...again...about losing another child.  "The earlier they split the better."  I nodded my head, I understand, I understood.   Another ultrasound was scheduled for 2 weeks later to see if they could see any sign of them being in separate amniotic sacs but honestly they looked conjoined to me.  I walked into that clinic with joyful anticipation and I walked out frightened and in tears.  But I was attached to those little critters already.

My life has been in 2 week increments ever since.  Everything has been put on hold.  I came home and I cried for 2 days straight and then I brushed myself off and blocked that out and went house hunting.  My emotions have been all over the place, microburst storms come and go.  Why did this happen?  Did Colum have a hand in all this?  Did he see that we wanted 3 more and so he's sending them all at once?  Is it meant to be?  Do I even believe in that?  I'm tired of being strong, I don't want to fight the sadness.  I don't have anymore room for anymore sadness.  I can't handle it.  

Would I be crying and freaking out if the accident hadn't ever happened to us?  NO, I wouldn't.  I would be brave. I'd be fine. 

 I couldn't blog, I couldn't write about anything else.  We didn't know what we were going to do.  We didn't know if my body could handle this.  Fetal reduction is strongly recommended, it's not about ethics it's common sense.  We strongly considered it.  I had know idea how many risks identical twins held until now.  How those risks wouldn't be as risky if there wasn't another baby involved.  Twin to twin syndrome, their cords getting tangled together killing both of them....

there. are. so. many. risks. involved.

My 9 week ultrasound showed that they were in separate amniotic sacs but sharing the same placenta.  They were just so so cute.  My Doctor came in to see us.  Her eyes were holding back tears.  "I'm so so so sorry".  It wasn't her fault.  We told her we didn't blame her.  We went over all the risks involved again and I was given 2 names for Doctors who preformed fetal reduction in California.  "What would you do?" I asked.  Tears fell from her eyes when she replied "I would do the reduction".   "Would you reduce to twins or to singleton?".  "It makes the most logical sense to reduce to a singleton with all the risks involved....oh, I'm so sorry".   She handed me information including statistics and surveys showing how depression and anxiety of parents of triplets was very severe compared to those with twins.

I went home and cried for 2 weeks straight.  I'm broken.  I was doing so good until that 7 week ultrasound.  The fear of burying another baby was more than I could bare.  I called the Dr's in California.  The one that took our insurance required a referral.  I made an appointment with a high risk Obgyn at U of U Hospital, our hospital.  My appointment was yesterday.  First thing was the ultrasound.  The babies have grown and they were kicking and squirming all over the place.  They were so adorable.  Everything looked fine.  Their heartbeats are all fine.  They are growing perfect.  I know it's too early but I swear they looked like Finn and they looked like my little Dove.  Next we saw the midwife and then the Ob.  They were both women with kind and caring eyes.  They laid out the pros and cons but basically it was just all the cons.  I cried.  I told them my story.  I explained how I didn't want any of this.  I don't want to do a fetal reduction and grieve my miracle identical twins....no more grieving.  But I didn't want to deal with all these risks either.  I'm terrified it will be a one way ticket into a straight jacket.  

We decided to not do the fetal reduction.  I think I've known deep down for awhile.  I can't imagine getting on the plane to go and do that.  But I am understanding to those that do.  I am following my heart and slowly shutting up my head.  I'm trying to ignore all of the doctor's warnings and look at it from a glass is half full perspective.  I'm excited.  I love them.  They are mine; ours.  As of last night I'm now letting myself get excited about being pregnant again since that 7 week ultrasound.  I will have given birth to 5 children!  5!  That's a lot.  We are going to have to buy a bigger car.  Our new house is only 3 bedrooms...but I'm still excited about it.

Oh, and I had the ultrasound tech humor me and try and predict the sexes.  I'm only 12.5 weeks.  I guess theres a Dr who's done studies at finding out the sex at 12 weeks and according to that study we have 2 identical boys and the other is a girl!  Perfect.  I can't wait to see what Colum has sent us.

P.S. Please be kind with your comments.  I'm super emotional, like pregnant with 3 babies emotional right now.  I'm taking a lot of precautions and one of them is to try and stay happy, I don't want to become upset.  I'm scared, but I'm so happy.  Still in shock as I am sure all of you will be. :)

P.P.S. They couldn't get a good picture of all 3 at the same time.  Hopefully next time. xoxo



177 comments:

  1. Yay Yay yay!! Im elated for you and your family!!! I will keep you and these lil angels in prayer... <3

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  2. I honestly have tears beginning to spill over as I type this. I found your blog a few months back and check back from time to time to see how your family is doing. It is amazing how connected you can feel through the world of blogging. I think it best to follow your heart. I most likely would have made the same decision as you. I pray all goes well. Congratulations on your three little miracles.

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  3. You have so many people praying for you and those miracle babies. I am definitely one of those who will have you in my prayers. May you have the strength and health to go through this pregnancy, to enjoy every movement those babies make inside you, and to have a safe delivery of three beautiful little ones. Rub your tummy for all of us who have followed your story with love and empathy.

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  4. Oh Kelly....I am so so happy for you all. What a blessing, what a gift. I will pray for you.
    We have a friend who tragically lost their 9 month old....she did invitro and also had triplets. She was happy again after all the grieving. Very busy, but happy again. You will be too.

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  5. Oh my goodness!! Super congratulations, I am so happy for you!

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  6. Kelly, I am soooo happy for you!!! Triplets will be a blast!! I know you made the right choice! Your little Dove hand picked these 3 babies for you. What a blessing this is!!! Take it easy and things will all work out. Be very careful with the move! Let others do the lifting you do the directing!! Yea, i'm soooo happy and thrilled for you and your family. Love from Colorado

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    1. I am so thrilled for you and your beautiful family! I think mothers have a gift of following their hearts and gut instincts that leads them to make the best decisions! And even if the babies come a little early, there are incredible doctors & nurses that work in the NICU (my baby boy weighed barely 2 lbs when he was born & is now a thriving 2 year old thanks to all of our NICU angels!). I believe in miracles! And I envision how much fun Colum is having with the triplets up there now, telling them what an incredible family they will be coming down to, telling them all about Finn, and his wonderful Mommy & Daddy. I'm sure there will be a piece of Colum in each of them! My heart is just filled with happiness for you!

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    2. I don't know how I deleted my post there, but I reposted it under reply somehow? Maybe it's past my bedtime ;-)

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  8. I know you're concerned. We don't know each other and I've never had a kid and never felt the pain that you have so maybe I don't know what I'm talking about. But I believe in you and I believe you can handle this. I know that miracles happen every single day. You stay positive and keep moving forward. Your little Dove is watching over your (his) family.

    Now, lets all get excited!!!! Yay, Yipee, Yahoo.....;)

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  9. I'm excited for you...and to find out what they are! I think it would be fun if it's 2 girls and a boy. But either way I can't wait to hear. I wouldn't have been able to do the reduction either, especially after seeing them moving and seeing their heartbeats. Just take it easy and let me know if you need anything.

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  10. You are going to handle this whole adventure in true Kelly Fashion: AMAZINGLY!!!!!!
    I am so excited for you, and pray for you every day.
    I bet Colum is looking down on this, so excited for all of you.
    Everything will be great! You are strong and awesome!

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  11. I'm So excited for you and your family!!! I had told u a couple of months ago that we did a frozen transfer and it didn't take:) I was wondering what clinic do you go to. I think I need to try a new clinic.

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    1. I'm so so sorry! I went to Utah Fertility Center. I highly recommend them. Google it and check out their amazing success rates. I went to Dr Gurtcheff and she was absolutely incredible. Stay hopeful, I know how hard it is. xoxo

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    2. Thanks,Oh That's who i'm going to try next time, I had gone to the Reproductive Care Center in Sandy but after my transfer I had so many problems, so I did call Utah Fertility Center and had a consult with Dr Gurtcheff, Maybe I will have better luck with them, thanks.

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  12. I have been following your story since your accident. What wonderful, exciting news! I have a friend who was in a similar situation. She delivered triplets. One singleton, and two identical twins. Her twins were mono-mono, so they shared the same sac (I think that's what it means??). Her doctors also recommended reduction, and she chose not to. She was in the hospital on bed rest for the last 10 weeks of her pregnancy. But she ended up delivering 3 healthy boys. I know she would love to talk to you if you ever needed someone to answer all the questions your must have. It could be nice just to talk to someone who might actually know just a little of how you are feeling. Stay strong!

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  13. Oh my freaking crap! SO EXCITING! All those Barre classes totally helped you, and your body will do amazing at carrying those babies. They will ALL be healthy and happy and adorable! I.JUST.KNOW.IT! Seriously... so stinkin excited for you!!! XOXOXOXOXO

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  14. Kelly, I've been a long time reader and have never dared to post, but I can't read this without letting you know there is a whole blogland hoping and praying for you! This is truly a miracle. I've had two of my own IVF babies and understand how remarkable this is! Congratulations! I can't wait to read about this new journey!

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  15. Kelly, I am so excited for your family! I have been following another blog of a woman that is carrying triplets for her sister & brother -in- law.She is pregnant with twin boys and a baby girl,31 weeks along and no bed rest needed so far. I believe they live in Utah County she may be a wonderful person for you to get some reasurance from dabofamily.blogspot.com I wish we were friends in the real world and not just a blog follower so I could help you when they arrive,with out being a creeper:) I will continue praying for your family and your 3 little miracles.Sending love from Riverton, Charlene

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  16. Congratulations you sweet girl!!!

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  17. Congratulations! Of any family, yours will rock multiples! Hope you're feeling good and feeling all the prayers and good vibes sent from total strangers (though I totally feel like we're friends! Ha ha). Best wishes and congrats! Does Finn know? How exciting!

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  18. Congratulations on your pregnancy. Has Ryan been able to do anything to improve his health?
    There are many risks to twin, especially identical twin pregnancies. I follow an Australuan blogger and her identical twin girls were delivered at 26 weeks. They've just left hospital at 16 weeks of age. Her Instagram is hazelnigella if you want to see her feed.

    What gestation are the doctors aiming for? I'm sure there'll be lots of love & support for you as you take this journey. I hope you feel all this support & love and allow it envelope you encourage you.

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    1. Yes. Ryan is doing much much better. I'm not sure what they're aiming for. I just know the longer the better. I think 32 weeks or later is ideal but there are some things out of your control. Thank you.

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    2. It is such fantastic news to hear you're all doing so well. I was beyond relieved to hear the twins are in their own sacs.

      I am so excited for you & your family and I'll be crossing my fingers and hoping the pregnancy goes smoothly until week 32 and you can enjoy it (not too tired, emotional, sick, etc). I'm counting down with you, only another 19/20 weeks to go?

      Christine Barker Harris

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  19. Kelly, I am sobbing tears of joy for you right now. I have a feeling that God is going to bless your socks off with this pregnancy. Triplets?? Craziness!!! P.s. Message me your address! I have a little something for you! I am stoked for you! Praying like crazy too for your health and those sweet little babies too.

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  20. Everything will be fine and work out. Sounds like it was all meant to be.
    Congratulations!! So excited for you!

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  21. holy cow triplets!!!! this is so exciting, and I'm so happy for you :) Congrats

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  22. Congratulations! You are blessed. It will be so fun to pick out THREE names. I'm so HAPPY for you. I wish I could hug you and jump up and down for joy. Everything works out. I'm so excited!

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  23. :) So excited for you all. Praying for Ryan's health, the babies growth, Finn's patience as he prepares to be a big brother to the 4th power ;), and YOU, Kel, as you Warrior Mama through this incredible experience. xoxo
    Amy H. from Pa :)

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  24. Kelly!
    What a miracle!!!! I am so thrilled for you and so happy. I don't think I would be able to do a reduction either. I will pray that everything will go smoothly. We love you and are so happy that Finn will have three little siblings to wrestle. We are also expecting again - wasn't sure if you had heard. #3, in July. Isn't it crazy to think that you will have given birth to 5 babies after you didn't think you would have any? I sometimes sit back and just get teary-eyed when I think of my little miracles, too. Love you!

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  25. I am so so so so happy for you guys and will be praying like a fool! No one is more deserving of three healthy babies than your family! Take care!

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  26. oh my gosh! Triplets! I can't imagine how hard these last few months have been for you, but please know we will be praying for 3 healthy babies and 1 healthy mama!

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  27. So so happy for you. Sending hugs, love and prayers!

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  28. I don't know you but have been following your blog...you are such an amazing person and have overcome so much! I am so happy for you!

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  29. anyone who would be anything but loving, prayerful, and excited for you right now is an asshole. pardon my language! we (even those of us who've never met you) are loving you from afar and loving all the wee ones too.

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  30. This feels like good news in everyone's life. Thank you for sharing. Be strong. We are praying for you, your triplets, your family and that little Colum is having a great time getting to know these little miracles and preparing them to come to your family. God Bless You, you are amazing! Rest, stay healthy and happy and we look forward to a happy arrival!

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  31. my husband and i have been trying for a 2nd child, with no luck yet (we are currently taking a break till July) and I'm soooooooo excited you got pregnant first!!!!

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  32. Amazing!!!!!! Congratulations!!!!

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  33. I am thrilled for you. So thrilled. You deserve happiness. Every single ounce of happiness possible. Congratulations to you all <3

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  34. Congrats. This is amazing!!!

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  35. OH My! How exciting!!! I have been following your story since the accident. I just KNEW yesterday when you posted you had exciting news that you had to be pregnant but with Triplets! Bless you and bless your family!!!

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  36. Congratulations!!! You made my day!! Its always a wonderful reminder to see miracles do happen! :)

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  37. Holy Crap!! Congrats!! I will pray for a healthy pregnancy and delivery. What a miracle. I'm so happy for you.

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  38. Simply amazing news! I have been following your blog since your accident but have never commented. I had my first baby last July and I can't tell you the number of nights I hold her just a little bit tighter and say a prayer for you and your sweet family. I cried tears of joy for you as I read this post. I will continue to pray for you and those three, sweet little babies. Love and blessings from Colorado.

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  39. I work with Kevin Davis, he just told me the news and I couldn't get to your blog quick enough. Woot Woot! So excited for you and your adorable family. Keeping you in my daily prayers!!!! :):):)

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  40. Congratulations! Your post brought tears to my eyes...I am so happy for you! You and your family will be in my prayers as you go through this next exciting chapter in your lives.

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  41. Aw Kel. Such joy! I can't wait for the maddness. Keep in mind though, you could always just give one to Brian HA! Love you!

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  42. Oh man, so happy for you Kelly! Sending lots of love, good vibes and prayers for 3 healthy babies! Thanks so much for sharing your journey with us blog stalkers. You are simply amazing and an inspiration to me.

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  43. Oh Kelly, I'm so so so very happy for you and your new babies. I will be praying and hoping for you - you're doing the right thing to follow your heart. Everything will work out. Be strong. I love you!!

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  44. Starting crying yesterday, now bawling my eyes out, I just knew you and Ryan were pregnant! But never expected three little miracle. I bet Colum is so excited to give you, Ryan and Finn each a special little gift to hold in each of your arms. Please keep us posted as I so love you even though I have never met you. Although, I understand you are moving close by. I hope to run into you someday, and when I do I will cry my eyes out and you will think who is this crazy lady, as you have touched my life like no other and opened my eyes to how important each and every day is, you are such a beautiful person as reflected in your writing. You are full of strength and one amazing person. I can't wait to see pictures in the following months of your three beautiful and healthy newborns. You are always in my prayers. Love you, Tree

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  45. I don't even know you, but I am crying happy tears for you. How amazing! Triplets!!! I wish you nothing but health and happiness and I can not wait to see photos of those three precious babes when they come.

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  46. AMAZING!!! CONGRATS!!!! Just remember...... Let go and let God. Everything will be as it should be!

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  47. Kelly!!!! SO SO SO SO excited for you guys!!! My brother Brody called to tell me that it was on facebook. I had no idea. SO happy for you guys!!! You guys are making the right decisions for you and your family. You guys are SO BLESSED with so much amazing and wonderful extended family that you guys will handle triplets wonderfully. You have lots of helping hands when needed. God is in control and I am SOOOOOOO excited to see just how stinkin' cute these little ones will be!! :) Get lots of rest and take it easy. :) We will keep you all in our prayers! I hope the genders are correct because that would be just simply AWESOME!!!

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  48. Congratulations and God Bless! I will pray for you and the babies!

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  49. Congratulations to you! We had our little girl at 27 weeks and she spent 4 months in the NICU. They have such amazing drs. and nurses there. I saw many triplets pass in and out of there way before my girl. (kind of discouraged me) I'm sure everything will be fine. My husband also has low testosterone and I totally know how they are!!!!! Good luck to you!

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  50. Oh Kelly!!! You have no idea how happy I am for you.

    You don't know me, but I've been following your blog from the beginning. I've laughed with you, cried with you, been happy with you, and have been heartbroken with you. And now, I'm just SO flipping excited for you that if I could, I would jump on a plane and fly from California to hunt you down and give you the biggest hug possible.

    I'm not sure what it is, but you've touched me in a way that no one else has. You are an unbelievable woman in my eyes who deserves the ultimate happiness.

    Triplets?! Crazy times 3! Miracles in more ways than 3. :)

    About a month ago, I had a feeling that I would soon open your blog to see an announcement. I was right! I have to tell you, that I have a feeling everything is going to work out just fine!

    I have a good friend who had triplets (all boys) a year ago. It's crazy at it's best, but so rewarding. If you'd like, I could definitely put you in contact with her for some reassurance. Just let me know!

    This just made my day!

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  51. That is so exciting. I have never commented on your blog but I have been following it since your accident. You have made me hang on to my babes just a little more. I am so glad that you are being given these 3 new blessings. I know from your previous posts that you previous posts that you grew up a member of the LDS church and while I understand that you do not attend now I just wanted to remind you that it might be a good idea to at least get in touch with the relief society in your new area. You can let them know that you are not interested in the church but are going to be in need of some help. It is nice to have an organized group to come help with meals and help you with the babies when they come. And really if they are like any of the relief societies that I have been involved with they will honor your choice not to be involved with the church but they will also help you in any way that you need. I am praying for you and your sweet family!

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  52. Congratulations Kelly! I'm very happy for you and your family, as soon as I enter to your blog and find out my day just change I have a big smile ear to ear, belive me I'm soooo happy, I know I don't know you but I feel like I do, thank you for sharing your story with us, I will be praying for you and your 3 little ones, you deserve all this happines, stay positive, you have many people praying for you and your family to have a wonderfull preagnancy and a healthy delivery.

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  53. AMAZING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I don't know you, but have been following your blog and your story. I think about your family often and your guys are often in my prayers. I am so happy for you guys and will continue to pray for peace, health, safe pregnancy/arrival of the 3 new angels to your family!

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  54. Congratulations! I have four children, with a few miscarriages and now two tubal ruptures so I am done having kids, but our child 3 and 4 were twins. I thought it was crazy since I am a twin myself, but it was meant to be. 4 kids in 3 years, but I wouldn't trade it for anything. We will be praying for you and your family that all will go well!

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  55. No matter what happens, you made the right choice! God bless you and may He help you carry those babies to term and may they be healthy! In Jesus' name, Amen!

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  56. After what you have already been through, just know that YOU CAN DO THIS. It may not be easy but you have already been through the worst. This is awesome news and I am so full of joy for you! 32 weeks is your new mantra. You can do it!!!!!

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  57. Kelly, I am so happy for you and Ryan!! Our family will keep you in our hearts and prayers daily and may those gorgeous babies grow and be healthy! My twin boys were thought to be in the same sac for the first 6 months of my pregnancy, so when we finally found that they were in separate sacs it took a huge worry away. Just do EXACTLY what your doctor tells you to do. Get plenty of rest, drink plenty of water and put your feet up every chance you get.

    I have a friend who had two embryos implanted last year - she just gave birth to TWO SETS of identical twins! You are a rock star and you can do this!

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  58. You CAN do it! I'm thrilled for you.

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  59. Oh my goodness!! My sister texted me at school today and said it is a must that I read your blog immediately !!! We are so stinking excited for you guys. I am a teachers assistant and couldn't help but tell everyone at school today how excited I am for you and your family. We love you and send you huge (((hugs))) congratulations. Be strong you can do this.YAY

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  60. I am so glad that your dreams came true. We must trust that the Lord knows what he is doing. I am praying for you and your little ones. Now, I hope you have the strength to do all the moving into a new house!! Congratulations and hugs to you.
    -Francine from Connecticut

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  61. OMG!! Kelly!! If anyone is due for a miracle it is you. Stay just as awesome as you are and as positive as you seem. I am so so happy for you and these three beautiful little ones on the way. No unpleasant ninth month for you, nope, nope :) I know you can do this, if only by sheer will I know you will do it! Let me know if you need ANY help. Just rest, rest, rest. Love You!! Heidi

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  62. Kyle and I are beyond ecstatic for your family! We are crying tears of joy for you! His mom wants me to tell you not to pack anything yourself! Have others do it for you. (And we totally volunteer!)
    We will keep you in our hearts and prayers as you move forward with this absolute miracle. God trusts you so much to send 3 babies at one time; put your faith in Him and he will guide you through. And when you get a minute--PM me on FB, I have a private question to ask you. :)

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  63. This news is beyond amazing! I'm so thrilled for you guys. I will be sending tons of positive thoughts and prayers to your family. My heart is overflowing with excitment for you. As a fellow fertitility challanged girl I understand how hard that can be, I can't imagine those struggles combined with everything else you have been through. If anyone is tuff enough to handle this it's you! Take good care of yourself Kelly, I look forward to reading updates. Sending Love from a stranger (that feels like your a friend) Tina

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  64. Kelly!! Along with many of the others, you don't know me...but I feel like I know you!! Kinda crazy how a stranger can bring a genuine smile to so many faces, and that SO many people can be truly ecstatic over the news of your sweet little babies!! You have touched so many lives, and I want to thank you for sharing your life with me. You are amazingly strong, and simply honest about the good and the bad, the heartbreaking and the breathtaking moments. I have followed your story since the accident, and am just beyond excited for you, Finn, and Ryan...and Colum too, as I picture him with the biggest,sneaky grin on his face now that his secret is out!! I just have this feeling that everything will be ok. You already have been through more than any of us could imagine....and now you are growing 3 more humans in your body....WonderWoman can't even claim THAT superpower!! You, Ryan, Finn, Colum and these 3 little beans are in my prayers!! I can't wait to read your next post!

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  65. I am so happy for you all!!

    Yes, triplet pregnancies carry more risk but my SIL did it and so can YOU! Her kids are now 20 and just fine.

    I have identical twin girls and read all about all the risk factors until I was scared witless. They were born at 37 weeks, 6 lbs 7 oz and 5 lbs 9 oz. One larger than the other due to twin transfusion syndrome but nothing a day on IV did not cure for the larger one.

    I am shocked by your news but in a GOOD WAY! Hugs to you all :)

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  66. One more wee bit of advice as a fellow mom of multiples. Know the risks but be encouraged by each and every day of your pregnancy! Ignore the words of those who are negative and focus on the positive!

    Think of all the high multiple pregnancies that make it to term these days with the degree of knowledge and skill they have these days. Triplets do not come with the huge risks they once did.

    I remember when pregnant with my girls having a neighbor tell me repeatedly that I was having boys. And that twin pregnancies SOO risky she feared for me. How smug I felt telling her I had two healthy baby GIRLS ;)

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  67. Wow! What wonderful, incredible, delicious news. You have my support. I followed some women with quad pregnancies, several with identical twins in the mix. They have some beautifully healthy kids. It might be high risk, but it can have happy endings. I think that will be your story, too.

    Congratulations.

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  68. Congratulations. How wonderful and exciting. I'm so happy to hear you have good news. My prayers are with you and your family.

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  69. SHUT THE FRONT DOOR!!! I am SO Freaking out with excitement for you!! I had triplets from IVF and have had so many friends that later or before me had the same! and they had them healthy and everything is GREAT!! My issue was with premature birth and a brain bleed. so honestly if you can make it to 28-30 weeks you are GOLDEN! We did 2 embryos that they thought split but later found out that they were not identical boys, and that I must have ovulated on my own during all of that!! Crazy! I am so happy with the decision that you are making, it truly is a blessing and Colum has a big part in all of this. enjoy the moment and Congratulations my friend! My heart is SO happy!!!

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  70. oh and P.S. my twins are 26 weekers and NOT ONE PROBLEM! they are just little!! although the NICU is a rollercoaster ride, i would do it all over again in a heartbeat.

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  71. Kelly, I too have been following your blog since the accident and I am elated for you! I am a certified nurse midwife in Ogden and truly believe women have an inner tuition to know what is best for them. Even though there is risk involved and likely lots of bed rest and hospital stays many women have had triplets survive and do well with the advanced medical care we have these days! I trained at the U and their specialists and NICU is awesome! Hang in there girl! I bet you'll do awesome and be a busy mama to triplets before you know it!! Good luck with your new house and don't over do it moving! Take care:)

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  72. I am so happy for you! That is such wonderful news. My cousin had the exact same thing happen to her. She had two embryos placed and one split into identical twins. Everything worked out beautifully and the triplets are now 15 years old.

    I love reading your blog! Thank you for sharing your feelings and thoughts. You have helped me a lot! I buried my little boy last October and have been calmed by your words more than once since then.

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  73. Congratulations Kelly and Ryan. So happy for you. Will pray every day for a healthy pregnancy and 3 sweet babies for you (and Ryan and Finn) Love you all. Aunt Cindy

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  74. Yay!!! Kelly, you my friend are a rock star! You got this! Congrats!!!! ❤

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  75. Oh wow, congratulations! I am so happy for your family. I too went through IVF, only had one each time. Your home will be overflowing with joy. My hubby's cousin had triplet boys when her twins were only 2! They all weighed 5 and 1/2 lbs each when they were born at 35 weeks. I know that she was encouraged to have a reduction as well. I think you are amazing for deciding to go forward with three. You can do it, even if its only one hour at a time...most days. Congrats again:)

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  76. SO SO SOOOOOO {like so many SO's!!!} EXCITED AND HAPPY FOR YOU!!!!

    You totally knew, right from the start! I had been waiting to hear!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thrilling! I believe it is meant to be! Will be thinking and praying for you!!!!!!!!

    {Side note. I'm super sad you are moving. But happy as well, sad for me, HAPPY HAPPY for you. Here's to an awesome 2013...it's gonna be a fab year!!!}

    luv ya! Cami

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  77. I'm a friend of Angie Farley's and Cami Kesler's and also Lizzy's (arrosmithchic) so I think that is how I found you (one of those ways) and I have always read your blog ... so I'm a bit of a lurker ... but WOW I am just so amazed at this news!
    I will be praying for you all!!
    Thanks so much for sharing .... Prayers and hugs to you all!!

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  78. I am soooooo happy for you guys! This is the best news ever!! What sweet babies!! Sending you lot of love and joy and blessings. Peace, health, fulfillment, and happiness to your wonderful family! I'm so entirely thrilled, this is the coolest news I have heard in a long time. Colum and Finn - big bros to triplets! 5 kids!! Ahhh!! So freaking exciting. xoxo -arrowsmithchic

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  79. I have quietly read your blog since finding out about your accident, we both lost children in the same year, you, your youngest, me my oldest..I have thought of you and your family so often since finding your blog and reading it, I am SO crazy happy for you guys and as I was reading this particular blog post I was willing so much to get to the end and to read that you had decided against the reduction! So excited for you guys. There are 3 for a reason, 3 took for a reason, this is such great news for your little family. You can do this!

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  80. OMG!!!!!! I'm SO HAPPY for you guys, not just one little one but 3!! Colum had a hand in this for sure! You and the babies will be just fine. Take it easy and enjoy!

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  81. OMG OMG OMG I have tears running down my cheeks and I want to sing and dance.I am speechless. I will pray for you everyday. Congratulations and know that blessings and miracles come in mysterious ways. I just want you to know that so many people care about you. We have never met and may not ever meet, but you are in my heart. I cant wait until we can have a virtual baby shower. My first thought is I want to celebrate and send presents. Rest and sleep and snuggle in bed and no stress.

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  82. Kelly,
    I am so excited for you. Congratulations. You know in your heart what is right for you and your family. Just take it easy and things will work out they way they are meant to be.
    I also understand you will be moving much closer. If you ever need anything please let me know, I would love a chance to get to know you and your sweet little family.

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  83. Congratulations!!! I've been following your blog since the accident and I am truly thrilled for your family! Such a happy and exciting time! Can't wait to see your little miracles make it safely into this world!

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  84. WOW WOW And WOW!!!!!!!!!!!
    Amazing!
    I am so happy for your family!

    Take care of yourself!!!

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  85. Words can't express how happy I am for you! I can understand your fears and worries! You are in my heart and thoughts and prayers! Loves to you ALL!!!

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  86. Tears and joy and spilling from me right now!!! I just KNOW that everything will be fine and this will be your miracle, actually ALL of our miracle. Colum is going to watch over those babies and everything will be fine. You have my fervent prayers for the next 9 months!!! Congrats, OVERJOYED for all of you!!

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  87. I have been quietly reading your blog for a while too. CONGRATULATIONS! Reading this today made me remember a conversation I once had with someone...I said to her in regards to something "I just was everything to be OK" and she said "Everything already is OK"...you got this girl!

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  88. Dear Kelly, I can't tell you how happy I am for you all :) I will be honest, my heart sunk when you even typed the words reduction. I am glad you choose not too, I am one that believes in miracles (silly I know) but I feel that this is ment to be. That there is a reason for you to get pregnant with 3 babies, I promise I will pray for you every day and night until these little ones are born safe and sound. Try to keep the positive in your head, take good care of yourself, rest when you can.. and you CAN DO THIS!! :) :) :) I am TRIPLE excited for you CONGRATS! I guess in a world like we live in, I hold on to the idea that everything happens for a reason. This is not always easy, but look at you after one year and the strong lady you have become ( I am proud of you). I know there are risks but there are also risks with one baby so push it aside and get ready to grow grow grow and bring three beautiful healthy babies into your lives. And remember you have all of us praying for you :) Hugs and Loves from So. Utah

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  89. Congrats! I too have followed your blog since the accident! I have cried often at your posts, this one was no different. I have been a L&D nurse for 14 years and I have seen triplets that have done amazing. Set a goal week like 32 and everyday tell yourself I will make it to 32 weeks and do everything in your power to keep life low and easy and I believe you will! Thank you for letting us share in your journey!

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  90. Whaaaaat!!!???!!!??? As tough as all the waiting and watching and decision making and and and and and must have been, I'm so excited for you and your beautiful family. Stay positive, keep stepping forward, and hold onto hope, dear girl! Many blessings to you and prayers for a safe and healthy pregnancy,

    Jen

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  91. So so so happy for you! I'm sure that was one of the hardest choices you have been faced with and glad that you followed your heart. Your sweet little (soon to be big!) family has way too many people sending positive vibes your way for anything to go wrong. Best of luck for a LONG healthy pregnancy. You can do this!

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  92. You can do it! I had a high risk pregnancy where every doctor we saw told us we had to "terminate". But we didn't. We couldn't. God had given us that baby and we weren't going to terminate. And thankfully, our baby girl was born, small, but healthy! I'll be praying for you and your 3 little ones!

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  93. Congratulations!! I cried tears of joy for you!! We are currently trying for our third (for over a year now) and I know how stressful the fertility journey can be, so happy you got your 3 little miracles the first time!! I will keep you and all 5 of your babies in my prayers.

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  94. Congrats!!! I'm so happy for you! I hope you are feeling good and staying happy. You so deserve all these blessing coming your way!! Three babies! How amazing! I'm really over the moon happy for you!

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  95. So so so amazing. Words just aren't enough for this kind of news. I am a mere stranger to you in this blog world, but at this moment I wish I could give you a big hug. CONGRATULATIONS to you and the entire now Pack7 family!

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  96. Yay!!! Kelly I am so excited for you and your family!!! BTW how did Finns swim lessons go last summer? I need to take my lil dude back. :)

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  97. Congratulations! I have happy tears in my eyes for y'all right now! Such a sweet miracle to be pregnant with three angels sent from your heavenly Angel! I wish we lived closer bc I'd love to meet your family! Congrats again and stay calm, GOD is in control.

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  98. Simply amazing. There has been so much good news all around on baby fronts lately! I can understand how scared you must have been, but sometimes you do have to turns things over and I can totally see how Colum had a hand in bringing you this overwhelming experience of mothering your little nest of babies. I wish you ALL THE BEST!!

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  99. Oh my goodness I literally had tearsin my eyes as I read this. I am elated for you. You deserve this amazinggift so very much.Many prayers to you for a healthy full term pregnancy

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  100. I have been following your blog since the accident and this post had me saying oh yay outloud haha i can't wait for your sweet triplets to come!!!! congrats

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  101. I am so excited for you!!!! I hope everything goes smoothly! What a precious blessing! :)

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  102. Kelly. You can do this. You are strong and you are not alone.
    Sure, it will be crazy, and it will be crazy fun too. Whatever the outcome, there are 5 lucky babies who have you to love them forever. I really believe that, whatever forever looks like, I believe love plays a big part. Don't be afraid to love...even when it hurts.
    You can do this.

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  103. Congrats Kelly and Ryan and Finn (and colum!!)!!!

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  104. Wow! That is such amazing news. Congratulations!

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  105. I have been praying that God would bless you with another baby for several months! I am SO happy for you and Ryan. I literally gasped outloud when I read the first line!! I will pray that God will bless you with happiness, peace and healthy babies!

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  106. Kelly, I am in tears reading this. I am so happy for you & Ryan. If anyone deserves this, it's you. You don't know me but for what it's worth I think you made the right choice not doing the reduction. I found out almost a month ago that I'm pregnant again after a miscarriage the previous month. This will be our first. I am worried too but you have bigger worries. I will be praying for your babies along with mine. <3

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  107. I think this may be the first time I've commented, but I've been reading since the accident. I was literally on pins and needles the whole post until the last paragraph. I'm in healthcare, obstetrics in fact. The risks are scary. But YOU have a choice, and anyone who oversimplifies that choice doesn't understand how complicated and difficult these attachments are. You're not going to rest easy until those babies are born and home, but whatever happens, you have to make the choice that you can live with. I'm proud of you for not being bullied by statistics or fear. I'll be praying for you and your little ones. Congratulations! I can't wait to see them!

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  108. Hi, My name is Michele. I have 9 year old triplets and a 7 year old singleton. I got pregnant again when my triplets were 7 months old. My triplets were born at 35w1d and they are all healthy normal wonderful kids. I have been blogging for the last 7 years. I am strongly going to suggest that you join our FB group, which has 650 triplet moms in it. You can do this! We will help you. Every single one of us has been through what you are going through right now. Every. single. one. of. us. http://www.facebook.com/groups/momsoftriplets/

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  109. Hi, my name is Danielle and I know Michele S (commented above). It can be done, you are more strong than you know! I have an 8 year old and 2 year old triplets. My triples were born at 34w6days -- we may have had a few bumps in the road but they are amazing and I wouldn't give them up for the world! Please consider joining the group Michele mentioned -- those ladies are really, really great!

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  110. Hi,

    Your story is truly inspiring! I have ggb 9 month old and am part of the amazing Utah Triplet group. We would love for you to join. Please email me danizarbock3@gmail.com! Or find me on fb.

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  111. Congratulations on your pregnancy and welcome to being a triplet mom. The statistics and the what the doctors tell you can be terrifying. We found out we were having triplets (identical boys) when I was 5 months pregnant (first ultrasound) and heard all kinds of scary stuff and were taken on a tour of the NICU. Try to focus on the positive and each gestational week as a success. My boys were born at 35 weeks at the U of U and turn 4 in a couple weeks. They have always been healthy happy little boys.

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  112. I have Identical boys and a girl :) They are awesome, healthy, 28 month olds...and though our lives are busy...I wouldn't change a thing! Congrats on your miracles! Melissa

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  113. Just heard about your story from another triplet mom. I have 3 year old triplet boys- two of them are identical. I know that having identical twins is scary, but it is incredible. I will be praying for you, and I hope you connect with us triplet moms on fb. :)

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  114. Congratulations & welcome to the wonderful world of triplets!! I have 2 year old g/b/g and a 6 year old boy. We made it to 32 weeks 4 days all over 4 lbs. & with minimal issues. You can do this!! So happy for you & your family!

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  115. Hi first off congrats on your miracles! Wonderful news. I just wanted to say that I am also a triplet mom of similar circumstances: we transferred 2 embryos and got 3, our identicals shared a placenta but not the amniotic sac. We were also advised to reduce, much like many other triplet families. We saw MFM and calmed our fears and told us they see this frequently. It wasn't the easiest pregnancy (although I have nothing to compare it to lol) but we made it and I have 3 healthy 8 month old girls now! I know some have suggested finding a FB group called Moms of Triplets and it's a great support group. Once again, congrats!

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  116. I heard about you from another triplet Mom. I have BGB trips who will be 8 this June. Welcome to the adventure of a lifetime! I delivered at 31 wks and 3 days in Boise at St. Luke's RMC. They have several wonderful doctors there. My trio spent 5 wks for my boys and 7 wks for my daughter in the NICU. They are now incredibly healthy, happy and wonderful. I can't imagine my life as anything but a mom of triplets. It's all I know. There are SO many medical resources out there. I'm thrilled you didn't reduce! Come find us on FB. CONGRATS!!!!

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  117. Congrats! I know it most likely won't be an easy road for you, but you have your sweet Dove watching you and your precious babies.

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  118. Congrats! I am a triplet mom as well. I remember the fear so well when I found out I was having triplets (I'm a single mom). I didn't have the fear of identicals though. Just know you can do this! I suggest finding good doctors you trust! I totally credit the success of my kids to my doctors. Take it easy and trust your body - if you feel off tell someone - even if it seems minor. If you want to read another triplet mom's blog you can check ours out - I started it when I was on hospital bedrest. And join the facebook page of triplet moms - I wish I knew about them when I was pregnant - they are an awesome group of moms. Alexander-triplets.blogspot.com

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  119. Hi. I'm also a friend of Michele's. Did you know that the kind of triplets you have are the MOST common? 2 IDs and a fraternal are the biggest combo of triplet I know. Since my triplets are 6.5 and I've been active in triplet groups, I know a lot of triplet families. If your IDs are in separate sacs you have a pretty good situation. TTTS is a real possibility but it is still rare. Most IDs don't have it. A triplet pregnancy is high risk, but with good medical care it is manageable. Get yourself the best MFM or peri in the area, rest as much as possible, eat a ton (especially protein) and drink water constantly. I urge you to contact the local triplet moms who have posted here because they can really be a great source of support and they will know how to direct you to the best local medical care. Good luck. We're rooting for a long, healthy pregnancy. Doctors, especially ferility specialists, like to scare you with the doom and gloom. Ignore them, find a good specialist and enjoy your pregnancy.

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  120. I had to come back and just let you know I've written extensively about the coercion women face from their fertility doctors to reduce triplets. It's sort of a hot topic for me. If you feel inclined to read it, here's the link. http://www.fourtimesthefun.blogspot.com/search/label/Selective%20Reduction

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  121. Heading over from the FB triplet mom page that Michele S. recommended above.......I have a 10 year old daughter and GGG triplets that are turning 5 and heading to Kindergarten in the Fall. I remember being so scared, terrified! about the risks and scary statistics that the doctors told me, and I remember struggling with whether or not we had made the right decision. But I never regretted going forward. You Can Do This. Join a support network, like the one on FB....it is SO helpful, and so uplifting, to read about all these triplet families doing just what you are about to do. Sending you and you babies prayers from CA. My blog is a little out of date, but please feel free to check it out if you are so inclined: http://andtripletsmakesix.blogspot.com/

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  122. I have triplets that are 6 and a 7 year old. I was petrified when I found out I was pregnant with 3 but I got so much support from other triplet moms then and now, I never felt alone. Even when the drs were all negative, other triplet moms gave me hope and made me laugh. I feel so lucky to have been blessed with triplets, it has been a crazy ride but a joyous and happy one. Prayers for a long uneventful pregnancy for you!!!!

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  123. Congratulations!!! My Name is Julie and I'm a mom to 5 year old triplet boys (two are identical) and an older son who is 7. They were born at 34 weeks, were healthy, and had just a short NICU stay. At my first ultrasound, my fertility doctor was very positive about the outcome of my triplet pregnancy. She said that since I had been pregnant before, my uterus would be better prepared for carrying triplets. I suggest buying the book by Dr. Luke, When Your Expecting Twins, Triplets, or Quads. My Perinatologist recommended it. It talks a lot about your nutritional needs and growing those babies. Good luck and I can't wait to read your future blog posts about your amazing pregnancy!

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  124. Just wanted to share another triplet success story...I was told to reduce my triplets because I had uterine damage from a previous c-section-- the RE told me I would die if I tried to carry and deliver triplets. I refused to reduce and carried them until 36 weeks- they were born at 5.5, 4.11 and 4.9 and are now happy, healthy almost 4-year-olds. You CAN do this!!!

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  125. Congratulations on your pregnancy!!. You are in the time of your life. Multiples are so much fun and a true blessing.

    Almost 10 years ago, I delivered my GBB trips at 34-1/2 weeks. All three were healthy with apgars of 9. My baby girl, Alexandra, passed away at 2 days old due to a complication of a poorly placed PICC line. However, her passing had nothing to do with the pregnancy and/or delivery.

    Like Lori said, get the best MFM or Peri you can find and leave the fertility docs and all their opinions behind. Triplets ruin the statistics for the fertility clinic and they frequently recommend reduction. There are so many women who have had successful triplet pregnancies. The scare tactics of the fertility docs are just not realistic.

    You have a lot of people rooting for you. The triplet community is a large one and you can get tons of support from them. I urge you to join some of the groups others have recommended.

    Best of luck for a long, healthy and uneventful pregnancy.

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  126. I am also having two boys that are identical sharing a placenta and a girl. Try to keep a possitive attitude is the only way i think i could get through this. The doctor told us all the risk of what could happen, but i talk to them everyday telling them they are going to be healthy and strong. The support on the facebook page is great and they can answer pretty much any question. You can do anythig as long as you believe you can.
    Andrea Tucker 22weeks 3day BBG

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  127. Congrats!!! You can do this! You should connect with other triplet moms! It helps to talk to other moms go know what you are going through! I agree about finding a good MFM near you who will support you and give you the best possible care! The last thing you need is a doctor who is scaring you even worst! Please join the group Michele mentioned! We will all be glad to have you! Good luck again!!!

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  128. Congratulations! I'm also a mom of triplets, two girls and a boy. They're 3 now and such a joy! Mine are all fraternal, so I didn't have the added risk identicals bring, but none of my doctors even mentioned reduction. I'm glad, because we wouldn't have considered it anyway. I'm so sorry your doctors have been so negative! I'm especailly shocked by the "She handed me information including statistics and surveys showing how depression and anxiety of parents of triplets was very severe compared to those with twins." That is just dumb! Sure, parenting three infants at once can be challenging at times, but they are such a special blessing. It's totally doable and if I had it to do over, I wouldn't change my life one bit. Congratulations!

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  129. Congratulations on your pregnancy! I'm also a mom of two identicals and one fraternal triplets. Mine are all three girls.
    I was given some of the same scary statistics you were, and did have some TTTTS concerns during my pregnancy. But if you get a good perinatal doctor who monitors you closely the risks are actually quite reduced. The really big risks are for women who don't know they are pregnant with triplets until a problem develops and then they find out after it's too late to do anything. If you look at the statistics for women who know they are pregnant with triplets early on in their pregnancies, the risk of fetal demise is almost identical to those with twins. My girls were born at 30 weeks and are very, VERY happy and healthy six year olds now. And we have a ton of triplet friends who are also very healthy. You would never know my girls were preemies looking at them now. They are excelling in Kindergarten, all reading well, love math, art and music. They are active in gymnastics, karate and piano. Best of all, they are all each other's best friends. :)
    Being a triplet family is a really, really special thing. There's nothing else like it in the world. And as scared as I was when I was pregnant (after undergoing IVF too and having one embryo split), it's actually been much, MUCH easier than I ever imagined. They are fantastic kids, and I wouldn't change anything at all about our family.
    I'm so sorry about the loss you suffered. I can't imagine going through what you went through, but you have an angel watching over you and those precious babies now. You can do this!!!
    Please join the FB group Michelle mentioned above. It's a fantastic source of support, and we can help answer any triplet-specific questions you may have going forward. Best of luck to you and your precious family.

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  130. Congratulations!!! You can do this! We have 5 year old BGG born at 31 weeks 3 days and a 3 year old. The goup of Triplet Moms on facebook is an amazing group of women. We are here for you! Best of luck for a long and uneventful pregnancy.
    Patty B.

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  131. First, CONGRATULATIONS!

    Second, those doctors and midwife did you a terrible disservice if all they gave you was the doom and gloom. There are PLENTY of us who have been where you are: shocked to find out there are three in there and then told that it wasn't safe.

    Well, it's not as safe as a singleton pregnancy or a twin pregnancy, but things go wrong with those pregnancies sometimes, too. You just get yourself a good doctor that is on the same page you are and you do the best you can to carry them as long as you can. I have triplet 3.5 year olds napping upstairs after spending the morning running around like crazy people with our friend's kid that happened to be born on the same day they were. So nine week premature triplets the exact same age as a full term singleton and you can't tell any difference.

    You CAN do this! Just find a doctor who thinks so, too, and go for it!

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  132. I am also living in utah and have 6 month old ggb triplets that were born at 32 weeks! They are babies number 3,4I remember being so incredibly scared my entire pregnancy! But, it is also and incredible thing! I prayed a million times a day! You will do wonderful! You should join the utah triplet moms group! I wouldn't have survived my pregnancy without them! Each woman has a different story!
    Hilary Peterson

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  133. I have been following your blog since just after your accident. Not sure how I came across it but I have read every post since. When I read that you were pregnant I cried. I am so happy for your family. Sounds like you have many, many people in Utah that will be a good support to you. Congrats!

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  134. Well I don't have triplets!! I did however want to say Congratulations. I found your blog through Michele as well. Sounds like you just got a whole lot of support :) :)

    I will keep you in my prayers and look forward to all your updates.

    Bec (in Sydney, Australia)

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  135. I have GBB triplets that are going to turn 4 next Wednesday. I tried very hard to have A baby, but when they said there might be 3 after 2.5 years of trying, I wanted them all. I was terrified of the complications that could have come with it, but you feeling that way means you are 'normal'! It wouldn't be normal to hear all the 'worst case scenarios' from the drs and not be scared. Would love to have you join the fb group. It's a crazy, wonderful ride you are about to embark on and I wish nothing but the best for you and your family!

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  136. I'm a friend of Michele's as well. I just found your blog today and have been bawling my eyes out...I wanted to tell you that I also believe Colum is a huge part of this. Let me tell you a short story. I tried to get pregnant for six years. I got pregnant once and miscarried. My mother in law told me for years that I would have twins, and let me tell you, that gets OLD, especially when: (a) you can't even get pregnant, and (b) there are not even twins in either family! She died on October 5, 2010. By October 27 I was pregnant, with the twins she always knew we would have. They are a boy and a girl, just as she said, and they are now 21 month old busy bees! I believe in God, and I believe in the power of prayer. I also believe that my mother in law had a hand in this. For you, what better angel could you possibly have than your sweet Colum! You can do this!! The triplet mom group will help you, and get an expert MFM that only does high risk pregnancy. This will be right up their alley! Best of luck to you, and know that you and your sweet angels will be in our prayers for the duration!

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  137. Hi, Another Triplet Mom here from Moms of Triplets. My BBG are now 6.5, the pregnancy was not too much fun but they came into the world 31.5 weeks just a couple days shy of the big goal. Find a supportive Dr that has immense experience with HOM, at least 30 cases. He/She will be able to guide you and know what your body can handle.
    While we may not always get along, us triplet moms stick together. There is a huge presence on FB and we always will help a prego mom with questions and concerns. Congrats and best wishes for your expanding family!

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  138. I'm yet another triplet mom... I have BGG triplets, carried them for 35.5 weeks, all were healthy, and spent no time in NICU. Since they were born, we've had a total of 3 sick visits between all 3 (The will be 4 this summer). I was never on bedrest, but was on self-imposed couch rest for the last 6 weeks. My husband and I live apart from our families, but have made it successfully. I didn't join the FB world until my trio was 1, but it's been a fabulous experience, and I couldn't imagine a different life and wouldn't want one! Welcome to the most fabulous ride you'll ever have!

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  139. I am here from Michelle's blog but I have read your stories about the accident. Your accident scared me because on Christmas day in 2010 while driving home our family was also in a car accident. It totalled our car. We were driving at 45 mph or possibly more and a woman made a turn right in front of us, she never looked. We went right into her car. If you saw our car you would not understand how we came out without severe injuries. The paramedics and firefighters arrived onsite expecting injuries. I am a mega carseat geek, the kids were safe. My husband and I were beat up but otherwise fine, my 3 year old had bruising, our 1 month old had no visible injuries. We were blessed beyond belief that night. Then I read about your accident and I really can not believe that we were ok.
    We suffered fertility issues, but we never had to make a reduction decision, never more then one. But we had the talk many times ( I lost 2 pregnancies) because we knew it was a risk of the meds and our doctor told me due to issues I had he would suggest reducing anything more then one. I wish you luck and will be thinking about you.

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  140. Congrats on your three little miracles! I'm sure everything will be fine, it has to be, you deserve it. I have triplets as well, two year old boys.

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  141. Welcome to the world of triplets! Michele S. has done a great job getting the word out. Many of us have heard the reduction talk, including me. But it was a short talk - my doctor said he had to bring it up to offer the options. We said no and he just smiled. He said, "We are going to take very good care of you!" And they did. I made it to 35 weeks, 2 days. My boys were 5-4, 5-11 and 5-15. They are now strapping, 6' tall 16-year-old boys.

    Enjoy your pregnancy. You have a very special angel looking over you!

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  142. Hi, another triplet mom here. We, too, put in two eggs and one split. My BBG triplets are 4.5 years old now. We had the same reduction talk, and my husband was freaked out beyond belief. I, on the other hand, never doubted the pregnancy for a second. Maybe I was in the dark, but I just knew it was right. We had 2 miscarriages before the triplets, and 2 after.

    I ended up on hospital bedrest at around 24 weeks pregnant and remained there for 3 weeks and then went home for 1 and back again till delivery at 29.6 weeks.

    We also have another baby. I was more worried about my singleton pregnancy because I didn't know how my body would react post triplets.

    If you would like, you can visit my blog www.cleysclan.blogspot.com There are so many great triplet moms to connect to and they have been through it all. Please join Triplet Connection or our facebook groups. I wish you all the luck in the world and hope you pregnancy goes smoothly.

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  143. First off, congratulations! I know that you are on a huge emotional rollar coaster ride and I hope that you can find a much more supportive doctor and if you stick with your doctor, I hope that she can respect your decision.
    I have 7 year old triplet boys. I found out at 20 weeks that we were having triplets. It was scary, exciting, nerve wracking, thrilling experience and I can't imagine not having all three boys in my life (including when they are driving me crazy!). Good luck and seriously think about joining the Moms of Triplets group on Facebook. Having a network of moms who have "been there" is such a life saver.

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  144. Congratulations! I am another mum of triplets who found you through michelle's blog. I had a 3 year old and a 2 year old when I found I was expecting triplets. I think I will always remember how scared I was initially. Our doctor immediately brought up reduction, I instinctively said no and that was that. My triplets are 6 now. They were born at 35w 4d by elective c-section because of growth disparity, the biggest two came home with me, the smallest one 6 days later. There was nothing wrong with him other than he was lighter (4lbs 1oz - not so tiny really). He's the sportiest one and was his teams rugby star player last season, still smaller than the other two but really fast. Right now I am watching all five swim in the pool in Bali where we are on holiday. I couldn't imagine life without them. I will follow your blog and pray for you throughout your pregnancy, you have already lost too much. Praying for a smooth pregnancy and happy, healthy babies for you. So many of us have done this, many with identical twins and a fraternal (mine were all fraternal) you have just found so much support. Join the groups!! ,

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  145. Kelly - I had the same scenario as you - we implanted two embryos on our first try and were met with the news at 5 weeks that we were pregnant with triplets - identicals sharing an amniotic sac and placenta (though with the all-important amnion between) and a third "bonus baby". Our IVF doc wasn't pleased and immediately recommended we consult with their reduction specialist, but we went back to our HMO to the high risk clinic, did all the test to see the probability of any complications, and then sat down and were told matter of factly that it was our decision and she wouldn't judge us either way. She laid out the medical specifics of what the procedure entailed and I remember getting really hot, gasping for air, and bursting into tears. I looked at my husband and he was sobbing uncontrollably. And we knew in that moment we were having triplets. I carried them until my scheduled c-section at 36 weeks with no complications and they all weighed over 4.5 pounds at birth. They came home with me from the hospital on day five and have been completely healthy and adorable since. It can be done and you will love doing it! Congratulations!!!

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  146. Kelly,
    My b/b/g trio are 14 - yes teenagers! But I STILL recall that shocking news of triplets during that initial ultrasound! You can do this. It's difficult and high risk and tough work - and worth every single second. I'd go through it all again in a heartbeat. Prayers for you. Please feel free to contact me. I'm in Utah too. My blog is teensandtriplets.com
    I'm also in the Utah Triplet Moms group - and we have a facebook group too.

    Prayers and hugs to you.

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  147. Hi Kelly! Another triplet mom here coming to share some love and support to you! I have triplet boys who just turned 2 this past Monday. I too considered the reduction, but just couldn't bring myself to do it. It's is such a horrific feeling to hear all those negative things that WILL happen to you, to your babies etc. Well, I am also one who can say that the WILL should be a MIGHT. There are no guarantees in this, it is VERY Scary.. but the possible pluses are well worth the journey.
    As with all the others who posted above, I am very welcome to you contacting me!
    My 3 boys were delivered at 35 weeks and were all over 5 lbs!
    I wish you all the very best! xoxox


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  148. Congratulations! Another triplet mom here. I also have two ID boys who shared a placenta. They will keep a closer eye on them during the pregnancy. my triplets (the boys and their sister) are 11 now and doing great, after being born at 32 weeks. I will pray for a healthy and happy pregnancy!!

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  149. Congratulations on your pregnancy. Our GGG triplets were born at almost 33 weeks. They are 3-years old and doing wonderfully. I hope you feel the support of the amazing triplet/quad/quint community. Welcome! You can do this!

    Practically all of us have had the reduction talk. I do not judge others' choices and circumstances. I was very fortunate to have had a realistic, but encouraging MFM. She explained all of the risks of a triplet pg in detail, didn't gloss over anything, but then said, "I see no reason why you can't have a goal of 35/36 weeks with minimal or no NICU time." THAT is what I wish for you. A peri who knows HOMs, understands the risks, but who can also reassure you that there are many great outcomes with triplets. Have a long, healthy pregnancy.

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  150. If you set your mind to it, you can do it!!!!!

    That was what got me through all the bumps in the road with my triplet pregnancy.

    They are now happy and healthy 8 year olds. I wouldn't change a thing.

    Wishing you peace and joy during this exciting new phase of your life.

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  151. This is the first that I have read your blog. Congratulations! I too am a part of the Utah Triplet Moms group on facebook. Please come and join our group. We all can let you know how amazing and wonderful and crazy triplets are. I am so happy that you made the choice to not reduce. There are plenty of us out there with perfectly healthy triplets. It's not all doom and gloom! Good luck with everything lady.

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  152. This is the best news!
    I've been reading your blog since your horrible accident and loosing your precious son.
    God has surely blessed you and your sweet angel Colum will always be there to protect you.
    I'm so happy for you and your family.
    God bless you.
    Linda Miller
    Charlotte NC

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  153. I have 5 year old triplets (and a 3 year old). Though mine are all fraternal, I was facing pretty serious medical issues at the time. I had a heart defect (which has since been repaired) which meant the pregnancy would be extremely dangerous and I'm also very, very short - and a number of studies show better outcomes for triplets with taller mothers. Nevertheless, we didn't reduce, despite STRONG recommendations that we do so. We found a doctor who held my hand and said, "We can get you through this," and we did get through it - with healthy babies. They are five now, and thriving. They were born at almost 33 weeks and did great in the NICU. I couldn't have asked for a better outcome, and I hope that you can say the same soon (but not too soon!).

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  154. Congratulations. I will continue to remember you in my prayers. I admire your courage to make the hard decision to not reduce. I can tell this wasn't an easy decision, but I think sometimes you just have to listen to your body and make the best decision that you can. I think it is amazing that so many triplet moms have come here to share their stories with you!

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  155. Congratulations! I will be praying for you, for a long and healthy pregnancy, and the happy adventure ahead.

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  156. I am THRILLED for you!!!! You absolutely made the right decision...these are your miracle babies & Colum knew what he was doing. You will have SO many people praying for you & offering support whenever you need it. Sending love & prayers to you all & hoping your husband feels better very soon.

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  157. Another triplet-mom-friend-of-michelles saying hang in there! With as much as you have been thru you can handle having triplets with your eyes closed!!
    Welcome to the club!

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  158. Another triplet mom here! I just wanted to pop in and say that your story has touched me, and I wanted to encourage you to follow your heart. It's true that triplet pregnancies carry some risk, but find a great doctor who believes in you (and the pregnancy) and has experience with high risk pregnancies. My girls were born 3 months early and very tiny - between 1lb11oz and 2lb3oz - and they are now 8 and perfectly healthy. Please find us on Facebook at Moms of Triplets so you can ask questions whenever you need guidance :)

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  159. I forgot to add that our girls are all ID who were monochorionic triamniotic. Meaning they shared the same placenta and outer sac. It wasn't really a problem for us, and I if you find a good doctor, they can watch for signs of TTTS and intervene.

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  160. I'm praying so hard for you all right now <3

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  161. I gasped in awe when I read you are pregnant!! Your family is amazing and you are blessed with these babies! I will continue to keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Congrats to you all.

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  162. Your babies will be fine. I feel it. I am a long-time reader, and the mother of TTTS survivors - girls. They will turn 1 on May 3 :)
    All the best to you, and I look forward to hearing updates!!

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  163. I am excited, scared, thrilled, worried, and happy for you. I pray pray pray all the babies will be born healthy and perfect. It is a miracle and I am so so happy for you. Take it one day at a time....like with the rest of life, we can only do what we can do. Your job now is to not stress, stay calm, don't lift anything too heavy, stay calm, be happy, rest all the time, take it easy, and smile!! Congratulations!! Take care

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  164. I will say a prayer for you and those babies. I hope for nothing but the best for you and your family and will be sure to say an extra prayer that God will send a few extra angels to bring all three babies to full term and healthy.

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  165. Ryan and Kelly congratulations! I was SO excited and thrilled to hear your amazing news. Wow, 3 more wonderful blessings, growing, and preparing to come into your family. I will pray for you often Kelly, that you will have a healthy and strong pregnancy. I know in my heart that Colum is smiling, knowing that you both deserve these beautiful babies. Try not to worry, and know that there are so many of us praying for you. My dear friend had triplet boys, they are now 4 1/2 years old and healthy, happy and very busy! Blessings to your family.

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  166. I couldn't be happier for you! Prayers coming your way:)

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  167. Another triplet mom dropping by to say welcome to the club! It's a crazy, wild ride but worth every single second! I look forward to getting to know you in our fabulous online multiples community! :)

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  168. I have followed your blog and am sooo excited for your wonderful news having TRIPLETS!!! I struggled with getting pregnant and had a son- didn't want him to be by himself and had triplets! It can be daunting but you can do this! You are quite the strong woman and have what it takes to see this through! You will never regret giving all three of them a chance at life : )

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